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Time Out vs Time In

๐Ÿ’ฎ Short term vs long term outcomes ๐Ÿ’ฎ

Time out is an age old discipline technique, often utilized by parents and caregivers. But studies show that time out has little benefits in the longterm, and can actually prolong undesired behaviors or make children become withdrawn when met with challenges or unpleasant emotions. This is because time outs do not actually allow any room for problem solving, which is what we want to accomplish most times we put a child in time out. Typically a problem arises, emotions flare, and separation is demanded. Removing a child from a problematic situation is a good idea, however there needs to also be some type of problem solving occurring in order for the behavior to diminish over time. Simply requiring a child to sit in a chair or isolate in their room, can lead some children to always isolate when met with problems, causing them to lack proper coping skills. Younger children do not have the brain development to fully understand their isolation. Waiting too long after a problem to discuss it with a child, can also cause the situation to losw it's importance.

Instead, I and other child development professionals recommend TIME-IN. Time in is much like time out in that it allows a cool down time to occur after a negative encounter. The difference is that instead of isolating a child, we work with them through problem solving. Some children may require you to sit nearby silently until they are ready to engage. As long as you and the child perform some kind of coping skills together at some point, akd the child never feels isolated, you are doing the right thing! You may also want to utilize some of the below calm down techniques when having a time-in with your child. Remember that this is yhe main differencr between time in and time out. One is done with the support of someone else, the other is done without.


Talking it out and coming up with solutions for next time.

Breathing Techniques

Stress ball

Sensory bottles

I ESCAPE (see our FB group or stay tuned for more info on this technique)




Stay Mindful! ๐Ÿ™โค๐Ÿ’ฎ

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